Fashion Victim?

I grew up in the 80's. The era of big hair and questionable shoulder pad size. As a teen, I LOVED fashion, the latest trends were always on my mind..I worked in the mall and come pay day, I would spend my whole paycheck on clothes (and gas for the car of course, but back then, $5 would get me thorough the week).  Long sweaters, leggings, big earrings - I had them all and LOVED how it all came together..

Well, fast forward to now. Minus the big cartoon character teased hair, many of the styles I wore in high school are back..At first I was repulsed.  Oh no! I wore those fashions the first time around, I am under NO circumstances buying a pair of leggings! Or am I?

My fashion sense, or "style" has taken a bit of a backseat for the past few years.  Obviously while pregnant for Sidekick, I wore clothes that could cover the side of a barn.  After he was born, as my body was taking on all sorts of odd shapes, my style was non existent. What I wore depended on either what was clean (meaning no spit up or pee or other infant bodily fluid) and/or what fit..It's ironic, before I had Sidekick, I would see new mommies and judge their appearance.. I know, I know...but what the hell did I know? I would think, My God Man, step away from the yoga pants!  Well, wasen't I the dumbass?

Anyhow, back to 80's fashion and leggings.. Now that Sidekick is older and I have developed a good morning routine that affords me a bit of "me" time, so I can shower, and actually style my hair and figure out what to wear, I feel as though my style needs a bit of a boost. Add in the fact that I am once again "single", and I think MAYBE, JUST MAYBE leggings, a pair of boots and a tunic top/long sweater might work?

Maybe something like this? I already have a bunch of scarves and the aviator sunglasses..
Just a thought. And I promise not to sing any 80's song while shopping, well....maybe just one..

xo

The Buck Stops Here

So, Sidekick turned three a few weeks back, no big party this year, just a quiet celebration with my parents..

One hears about the "terrible two" from the parenthood fables..It's only when speaking with an "in real life" parent that one learns that, oh no, the twos are a cinch, just WAIT until the "threes" happen..So I did, I waited and well well well, what do ya know..They were right..The Threes (and late twos) have been a CHALLENGE to say the least. So, the terrible tows, not so terrible.  The threes?!??! Let's call them the "terrifying threes"..

Ok, so Sidekick is pretty deep into the terrifying threes (but I love him so, blah blah blah), and guess who decided that this would be a good time to get divorced? Right, that would be me..Sidekick's dad (let's call him S) and I have been separated for over a year and (fingers crossed) will be officially divorced in the next few weeks..So, that means that I have been swimming in the single mommy waters for some time now..But, holy cheesecake, I was not expecting some of the crazy sauce behavior that I have witnessed as of late.

And the worst part of that is there is no one there to whom I can hand Sidekick when he is doing his demon child act..It's me and him, him and I...

It is SO important that I keep my cool when he is throwing a fit over God knows what..I'm IT, in that moment..Wow, talk about the pressure. I feel resentful sometimes that I am on my own..Then it dawns on me, I was alone 80% of the time once Sidekick was born, so it's not like I would have help from S anyhow. Take last night for example..Monday night for men (straight men anyhow) means MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL..So, S would not have been home for the epic meltdown Sidekick had..I was on my own last night and would have been had I stayed married..

Being a single mom is daunting and honestly, a bit scarey.  I worry that I don't stay as calm as I should sometimes or that Sidekick is missing out on the organic "family'..But, I divorced S for many reasons and have not looked back. I have been accused of "breaking up a family" and that hurts, but I know it was and will continue to be for the best..So, I am on the terrifying three thrill ride, I suppose I should strap myself in..

xo

Welcome!

Ok folks, after a few fits and starts, I give to you my new blog. ((TA DA!!))

I don't have a specific  direction as of yet,  there is so much to talk about!

I want to talk about my three year old (Sidekick)and what it is like to be a single mommy living on a tucked in cul de sac deep in the burbs.

I want to talk about life after marriage (and an ugly divorce).

I want to talk about budgets and saving money.

I want to talk about life at work, and the prospects of new employment.

I want to talk about friendships and how they change through the years.

I want to talk about balancing a dating/love life and a toddler.

I want to talk about fashion for a 40 something single mommy.

I want to talk about current events, how will what is going on today affect (positively or negatively) Sidekick's future.

So join me for a chat and beverage. Lets have some fun. :)

PS - If this looks familiar, one could say it is a continuation/new direction from a previous blog The Adventures of CW in the Burbs.